Surefire Happiness by Pam Velez

My Happiness Project

One of my first grown-up jobs after college was working for a very aggressive, male dominated sales company. Everyone in the office was 20-something and the testosterone was like fog. The company culture was very much about climbing the corporate ladder and dominating the marketplace. I was in my 24 year old bosses’ office when he asked me “Where do you want to be in 5 years? In 10 years?” My response boggled his brain….”I want to be happy.” His response “Yes, but what will make you happy- managing this office, district manager? Director?”

I have spent much of my life not striving for anything more than “Happy”. I want happiness for myself and I want to help foster happiness in others. One of my favorite quotes is “Happiness is in the Heart, Not in the Circumstances.” (I am not sure to whom I should attribute this quote, I found it in a mini dove bar, dark chocolate, of course.)

I recently came across an authority on happiness: Shawn Achor. Shawn Achor is a bestselling author, has a Ted Talk that has had over 10 million views and is a former Harvard professor who is considered an authority on happiness.

The following concepts are from talks that I have heard Shawn Achor deliver…

There is a common thread that links all happy people, and that is gratitude. Happy people are grateful people. If you want to be happier- have gratitude.

Try this: Spend a few minutes every day listing off the things for which you are grateful. You can write them down, say them out loud, or think grateful thoughts. I often go through my list while I am driving or walking my dog. For 20 days, spend 2 minutes each day being grateful. Each day, you must come up with a brand new list (no repeats). This exercise will foster a habit of being grateful for more things.

My experience: One day, while driving, a bug collided with my windshield and left a nasty mini mess. As the windshield wiper fluid flowed out onto my windshield and the wipers cleaned up the buggy mess, I found myself very grateful that I did not have to get out of my car to clean the windshield myself. How many times had this same thing transpired in the past without my appreciation?

Noodle on this: It is our obligation to share our happiness. To share your happy, try giving a sincere compliment to someone every single day. The compliment can be via email or phone or face-to-face. When we share sincere compliments with others, it offers the recipient the opportunity to be happier.

I hope that these tips leave you with some tools to be happy and share happy. I would love to hear from you. Please let me know if these tips work for you.

Published on 9/28/2016 9:05:02 PM

About Pam Velez

Pam Velez is a Registered Yoga teacher and Holistic Health Coach. After spending 10+ years in corporate America, Pam now focuses on helping organizations save money (and retain good people) by providing wellness education and lifestyle support for their employees. She presents fun, interactive, wellness workshops to corporations, women’s groups and universities.
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